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Dealing with anger

12/8/2010

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Do not teach your children never to be angry; teach them how to be angry.  ~Lyman Abbott

Yesterday one of my most committed yoga students from prison leaned forward to me very close and whispered " It is very uncomfortable to say, but I often want to beat up people, just hit them in the face. Especially it gets complicated when I want to beat up my cell mates, because after the fight, I just cannot walk away, I have to keep living with them". Then we both laughed, because indeed it can be complicated situation if you constantly want to beat them up. And  then we talked about some possibilities to put our reactions on pause and seek for the cause in our own needs being unsatisfied at that current moment, seeing alternative and more compassionate ways to satisfy them.

But at the same time, when I think back to out society outside the prison bars, how much we fear our anger, how much we fear all negative emotions, rather then thinking them as very positive signs of us being alive, being sensitive and aware of what is going on in ourselves. It might be not yet a conscious process, but still a process.
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I would rather tend to believe that anger holds a lot of energy and transformation power, just like many other emotions, which can be described as negative. For me they are catalyst of change.  It means that the person is not indifferent and willing to express themselves and their pain, in direct or very indirect ways. It means that there is passion for life, first sign of vitality and motivation to live. No surprise that I find this student to be very committed and motivated. Although bothering sometimes with her loud voice and side-behaviors.)

Prison is a very strange place, where probably also me would get mad at some point about everything around, sell-mates, guards, hypocrisy and my own self. There is constant risk of too much accumulated energies which we are sometimes unable to release without physical workout and mental break/ solitude. Thus for many prisoners attending yoga is escaping from the tension space into finding their own power to balance and transform. Thus I wish that all those practices- non-dogmatic yoga and meditation, non-violent communication, self-care and community service shall be in agendas of all prisoners, if they really want to rehabilitate a healthy individual. Indeed they should be into agenda into everyones life.

Thus for me anger can be a beautiful start from where we transform the lives of ourselves, strongly deciding upon guiding principles and values that matter the most. It can be great work still ahead of us, but seems like anger is a sign of our ability to be powerful enough to survive through these winds of change.




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Nathalie link
12/8/2010 05:25:03 am

I admire you alot dear Ilze and I agree with you on this very interesting post! Anger and fear is often also a very good motivation tool of things we rather want to avoid then actually accomplish.

Hugs,
N.

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Ilze
12/8/2010 08:18:29 pm

Thanks, Nathalie.)

In the way, I believe it is truly not the anger, fear, sadness the driving force, but they are signs of very unsatisfied needs of yours. Having a very strong emotion can lead you to find causes for these things more easily and thus seek the ways how to express your sadness, anger in more healthy and non-damaging way.
I would think that such a powerful emotion as anger could be transformed in powerful search for living more satisfactory and fulfilling life.

I was working also in women crisis center, which accommodates women, who have escaped from domestic violence. And they have gathered all courage to finally walk away, when they have got enough angry of the current situation. Probably it would not be the best to beat up the husband to lessen your anger, but to transform it into realization of what I currently need is far from being satisfied in this violent and dependent relationship.

Thus I do believe that love is the moving tool and biggest motivator for everything, but the anger is a tool to survival and better, more soulful living.

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